When you're newly single after a long relationship it can be difficult to get used to coming across as a single woman. And sometimes, people just give off 'closed' signals that say to potential dates that they are unavailable. Most of the time we don't even know we're doing it, but it's so important to recognise if you are open to dating and want cute potential dates to know that. It's really easy to make yourself 'available' and don't worry, it doesn't involve ringing a giant bell and wearing a 'I am Single' banner!
Here are 6 simple ways to let people know you're single and ready to mingle:
1. Get On A Dating Site
This may sound really obvious, but so many people discount dating sites as 'sad' or 'desperate'. If you're one of those people, you're behind the times! Online dating is the way to connect these days, especially if you're busy or interested in a particular dating niche. If you're unsure, browse through sites easily using our comparison quiz- Start quiz here!!
2. Get Your Body Language Sorted
Stop walking around with your head down and your grumpy face on - you are not approachable! You don't have to jiggle your boobs at a guy to let him know you're single, just practise open body language. It will do wonders for your confidence regardless of whether or not it gets you a date. So straighten that back up, hold your head high and get used to making eye contact with people.
3. Learn The Art Of Flirting
Lots of people struggle with the idea of flirting because they think it involves hideous innuendos and cheesy chat up lines - it doesn't. Just a simple glance and a smile can let a man know you're interested. And if he does approach you, don't start burying in the sand like a crab, chat to him, smile at him and ask him questions. Even if you don't like the guy, at the very least you'll be honing your flirting skills for when you need to reel the right one in!
4. Make An Effort
It may well be the case that you've been in a relationship for a while and you've forgotten how to go on a night out feeling like a million dollars. Well now is the time to strap up what your mother gave you and strut your stuff! No more hairy armpits and discoloured pants for you! Start with your underwear - go sexy and flattering. Then wear clothes that are comfortable, but make you look fabulous. Stop going to the supermarket in your Uggs with greasy hair and recognise that any place, any time is a potential meeting ground for 'the one'. This will boost your confidence and your dating potential.
5. Boost Your Confidence
This is by far the most important point on here. If you aren't confident in your own skin, you're not likely to want to make an effort with your appearance, flirt or ‘I’m available’ look. You're probably giving off some very negative vibes as a reflection of how you feel about yourself. Focus on yourself and begin to love yourself again. It is so true that someone else will only be able to love you, when you learn to love yourself. Do some exercise, boost your skillset and start looking at yourself in the mirror with love and kindness. If the confidence issues go deeper, get some coaching or counselling and invest in you.
6. Love What You Do Have
There's a difference between being open to a relationship, and being desperate for one. If you are desperate for one you need to stop what you're doing and learn to love what you have right now. Relationships do not fill a gap, they bring amazing things and add to your already great life. Often when we come across as desperate, we repel the opposite sex because people want to feel special, to feel like they are the chosen one, not just the one that 'will do'. So love your life, your friends, your family, your pets, and your alone time first - the rest will happen naturally.
"If you're presenting yourself with confidence, you can pull off pretty much anything" - Katy Perry